The Soft Life with Saddie Baddies

Confronting the Comparison Trap and Navigating Jealousy

In this episode, we delve into confronting the comparison trap in the age of likes, comments and retweets. We explore the nuances of comparison and discuss strategies for navigating jealousy in various aspects of life in your romantic relationships, friendships, family dynamics as well as social networks and career. We’re diving deep into the influence of social media and societal pressures and share practical tips for cultivating self-compassion and embracing personal growth.
In this episode we discuss:
Insights and guidance to help you confront the comparison trap with clarity and confidence
Practical strategies for navigating jealousy in different areas of life, including romantic relationships, friendships, family dynamics, social networks, and career.
Actionable steps for cultivating self-compassion and embracing personal growth as essential tools to overcome the comparison trap and address feelings of jealousy effectively.
ANNOUNCEMENTS & MENTIONS
Check out our collaboration with Apple Podcasts in honor of Mental Health Awareness Month!
Watch our mini video essay: “Staying in Your Own Lane” here
Get 50% off your first order of GEM with our code right here
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CREDITS
Directed by: Priscilla O. Agyeman,MPH
Produced by: Eduay Peña & Priscilla O. Agyeman,MPH
Audio by: Eduay Peña

Five Ways to Prep For Your Monthly Reset

In this new weekly bonus episode of The Soft Life with Saddie Baddies, we share our top 5 tips for doing a monthly reset. These practical tips cover various aspects of life, including finances, personal goals, environmental organization, physical well-being, and spiritual growth. By doing a monthly reset practice, you can prep yourself for a more focused and aligned new month.
In this episode we discuss:
The goal and benefits of doing a monthly reset, even if you’ve never tried one before
How to track and review expenses to improve your financial well-being, as well as practical techniques for setting personal goals and intentions to align your actions with your values and aspirations.
Strategies for creating an organized and harmonious environment by decluttering spaces, incorporating healthy eating and self-care rituals, as well as nurturing your spiritual growth through mindfulness, gratitude, and connecting with your community.
ANNOUNCEMENTS & MENTIONS
Check out our collaboration with Apple Podcasts in honor of Mental Health Awareness Month!
Check out our list of 5 things to let go of before the new month starts
Get 50% off your first order of GEM with our code right here
STAY IN THE LOOP
You can stay in the loop with all the other #saddiebaddies by following us on all socials and subscribe to this podcast for weekly episodes:
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ONNECT
Have a burning question for us? Want to suggest a guest or a topic for our next episode? Send us a message via email to info@saddiebaddies.com or DM us on IG!
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CREDITS
Directed by: Priscilla O. Agyeman,MPH
Produced by: Eduay Peña & Priscilla O. Agyeman,MPH
Audio by: Eduay Peña

“The Ground Can Be a Pillow”- Emotional Intelligence, Education, and Softness with Valenciá De’La Clay-Bell

This week, we have the incredible honor of speaking with educator, professor, entrepreneur and community leader: Valenciá De’La Clay-Bell. Valenciá De’La Clay-Bell is a Harlem, NY native, Morgan State University and John Hopkins University alumna and author of “Soundless Cries Don’t Lead to Healing: A Critical Thinking Guide to Cultural Consciousness.” Above being an avid reader, writer, creator, educator, and mental-health advocate Valenciá is a symbol of liberation who plans to continue innovating in education, from her heart to the world, for years to come.
In this amazing episode we discuss:
Valenciá’s origin story as an early childhood educator to her current role as a professor at Morgan State University.
How teaching emotional intelligence and self-management to youth is the foundation of generational healing.
What “the ground can be a pillow” means as a symbol of resilience and softness.
ANNOUNCEMENTS & MENTIONS
Stay connected with Valenciá De’La Clay-Bell through her website and IG
Tap into Valenciá’s platform, Critical Literacy online to check out her reading list!
Get 50% off your first order of GEM with our code right here
STAY IN THE LOOP
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CONNECT
Have a burning question for us? Want to suggest a guest or a topic for our next episode? Send us a message via email to info@saddiebaddies.com or DM us on IG!
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CREDITS
Directed by: Priscilla O. Agyeman,MPH
Produced by: Eduay Peña & Priscilla O. Agyeman,MPH
Audio by: Eduay Peña

Getting Unstuck: Taking Inspired Action vs. Goal Setting

We're back with another episode of The Soft Life with Saddie Baddies! In this episode, we talk about feeling "stuck" and the difference between inspired action and goal setting. We share practical tips and strategies for using inspired action to move past feeling stuck, including how to tune into intuition, set meaningful goals, and surround oneself with inspiration.
Whether you're feeling unmotivated in your personal or professional life, this episode is for you! Tune in and start taking inspired action today!
This episode is for you if you:
Have been feeling stuck in life and you’re ready to get unstuck and move past stagnant, “idk where to start” energy
Are curious about the difference between inspired action and goal setting, and which method applies to you and your needs right now
Want practical tips for tapping into your intuition, taking small steps towards meaningful goals, cultivating a growth mindset, and surrounding yourself with inspiration to help you get unstuck and move closer to your soft life.
ANNOUNCEMENTS & MENTIONS
Check out our collaboration with Zando Projects on Liv Little’s debut novel, ROSEWATER!
Get 50% off your first order of GEM with our code right here
Tune into our convo on The Being Black podcast with Camille Smith
STAY IN THE LOOP
You can stay in the loop with all the other #saddiebaddies by following us on all socials and subscribe to this podcast for weekly episodes:
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CONNECT
Have a burning question for us? Want to suggest a guest or a topic for our next episode? Send us a message via email to info@saddiebaddies.com or DM us on IG!
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CREDITS
Directed by: Priscilla O. Agyeman,MPH
Produced by: Eduay Peña & Priscilla O. Agyeman,MPH
Audio by: Eduay Peña

Empaths, Unlearning People Pleasing and Setting Boundaries

Featured in Apple Podcasts 2023 Women’s History Month Collection: A New Era.
Recovering people pleasers, unite! Today's topic is all about people pleasing - prioritizing others' desires, needs, and opinions over one's own, often at the cost of one's well-being or values. Here, we’ll be sharing signs and patterns of this behavior, its negative effects, and how it differs from being empathetic. We’re also talking about practical tips for setting boundaries and self-care, such as saying "no" firmly, avoiding over-explaining, and celebrating successes.
This episode is for you if:
you find yourself constantly putting others' needs and desires before your own
you’re struggling to say "no," and feeling overwhelmed and drained as a result
you're ready to learn how to set healthy boundaries, prioritize self-care, and develop a stronger sense of self rooted in awareness and compassion
ANNOUNCEMENTS & MENTIONS
Check out our post on people pleasing right here
Learn more about setting boundaries as well as other mental & emotional health info here
Tune into last week’s episode here
STAY IN THE LOOP
You can stay in the loop with all the other #saddiebaddies by following us on all socials and subscribe to this podcast for weekly episodes:
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CONNECT
Have a burning question for us? Want to suggest a guest or a topic for our next episode? Send us a message via email to info@saddiebaddies.com or DM us on IG!
Stay connected with your host, Priscilla O. Agyeman, MPH via IG
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CREDITS
Directed by: Priscilla O. Agyeman,MPH
Produced by: Eduay Peña & Priscilla O. Agyeman,MPH
Audio by: Eduay Peña

Your 2023 Glow Up Guide: Health & Wellness Routines, Mindset and Practices

Featured in Apple Podcasts 2023 Women’s History Month Collection: A New Era.
It's the perfect time to start something new, reset and refresh your mindset, routines, and practices to help you thrive this year, baddie. If you're ready to embrace change, let go of the past, and tired of feeling stagnant tune into this episode and learn how to take baby steps and create a plan that works for you while holding yourself accountable.
This episode is for you if:
You’re ready to reset and refresh your mindset, routines, and practices to help you thrive this year, all rooted in self-awareness and compassion ✨
Want to take baby steps and create a plan that works for you while holding yourself accountable 👩🏾‍💻
Are holding onto the Chipotle receipts at the bottom of your tote bag from 2021 🤭
ANNOUNCEMENTS & EPISODE LINKS
Check out our feature in ESSENCE about The Soft Life (also in print!) as well as Taking a Sabbatical
Check out the Huberman Lab podcast episode about the effects of alcohol on the mind & body
STAY IN THE LOOP
You can stay in the loop with all the other #saddiebaddies by following us on all socials and subscribe to this podcast for weekly episodes:
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Website and newsletter: www.saddiebaddies.com
Follow the official IG page, @thesoftlifepod!
CONNECT
Have a burning question for us? Want to suggest a guest or a topic for our next episode? Send us a message via email to info@saddiebaddies.com or DM us on IG!
Stay connected with your host, Priscilla O. Agyeman, MPH via IG
Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review on Apple and Spotify!
CREDITS
Directed by: Priscilla O. Agyeman,MPH
Mixing & Engineering by: Eduay Peña
Sounds by: Eduay Peña

Building Your Personal Brand & Authenticity as a Creator

Featured in Apple Podcasts 2023 Women’s History Month Collection: A New Era.
Building your own personal brand is key to making it professionally/creatively and feeling good about yourself. To make your personal brand really stick, you have to know what makes you unique, know who you're talking to, and how to create a consistent brand message across all channels. By being yourself, but staying open to learning and adapting, you'll be be able to develop your personal and professional goals and building a like-minded community.
In this episode, we’ll discuss:
What exactly a personal brand is and how you can leverage it and develop positive outcomes
How to develop your brand identity, including choosing a name, logo, visual style, creating a consistent brand voice and tone, and choosing the right platforms for your personal brand
Case studies on who baddies (like Princess Ice Spice 🧊) who’ve nailed building their own personal brands down to a science, and takeaways on how to apply these lessons to yourself
ANNOUNCEMENTS & EPISODE LINKS
Check out our feature in ESSENCE about The Soft Life (also in print!) as well as Taking a Sabbatical
Listen to our episode with Ri Turner, founder of For the Healthy Hoes podcast here
Check out Alex Wolf, tech philosopher, entrepreneur and “the girl who made business pink” 💕 here
STAY IN THE LOOP
You can stay in the loop with all the other #saddiebaddies by following us on all socials and subscribe to this podcast for weekly episodes:
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CONNECT
Have a burning question for us? Want to suggest a guest or a topic for our next episode? Send us a message via email to info@saddiebaddies.com or DM us on IG!
Stay connected with your host, Priscilla O. Agyeman, MPH via IG
Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review on Apple and Spotify!
CREDITS
Directed by: Priscilla O. Agyeman,MPH
Mixing & Engineering by: Eduay Peña
Sounds by: Eduay Peña

Unlearning Perfectionism: Embracing Imperfection

Perfectionism can be a double-edged sword. On one hand, it can drive us to achieve great things and set high standards for ourselves. On the other hand, it can also lead to burnout, self-doubt, and a constant feeling of never being good enough. In this episode, we’ll dive deep into the roots of perfectionism, how it manifests in different areas of our lives, and the ways in which it can hold us back.
In this episode, we’ll explore:
The benefits of embracing imperfection, such as increased creativity, resilience, and self-compassion.
Practical strategies for unlearning perfectionism, such as reframing negative self-talk, setting realistic goals, and practicing self-care.
Tips for the recovering perfectionist and how embracing imperfection can lead you to personal freedom.
ANNOUNCEMENTS & EPISODE LINKS
Check out our feature on The Foster’d Podcast with Angell Foster where we discuss sober curiosity, anxiety, asking for help and what is the soft life actually?
Download our guest episode on Chats with Cat where we’re getting real with mental health and embracing your flop era
Read our post on perfectionism here
RSVP for our panel discussion with The Webby Awards x Omidyar Network virtual event TODAY Tuesday, March 7!
 
STAY IN THE LOOP
You can stay in the loop with all the other #saddiebaddies by following us on all socials and subscribe to this podcast for weekly episodes:
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CONNECT
Have a burning question for us? Want to suggest a guest or a topic for our next episode? Send us a message via email to info@saddiebaddies.com or DM us on IG!
Stay connected with your host, Priscilla O. Agyeman, MPH via IG
Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review on Apple and Spotify!
 
CREDITS
Directed by: Priscilla O. Agyeman,MPH
Mixing & Engineering by: Eduay Peña
Sounds by: Eduay Peña

‘But You Don’t Look Sad’- High Functioning Depression in Black Women

Just because you carry the load well doesn’t mean it’s not heavy baddie. Too many Black women and women of color are disregarded in the clinical and social conversation on depression until something tragic happens. This episode leans into the shadows of what ‘high-functioning’ depression is, signs, and resources to help you or someone you love.
Through this episode, you’ll learn:
What ‘high-functioning’ depression is and how it’s different than sadness
The way ‘high-functioning’ depression shows up specifically in Black women and signs it’s time to ask for help
Resources and community & self care tools available to you or someone you love
STAY IN THE LOOP
You can stay in the loop with all the other #saddiebaddies by following us on all socials and subscribe to this podcast for weekly episodes:
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ANNOUNCEMENTS & EPISODE LINKS
RSVP for our panel discussion with The Webby Awards x Omidyar Network virtual event next Tuesday, March 7!
Check out our article on Sustainable Baddie by Natasha Lopez
Check out our topic on high-functioning depression and mental health resources
Article on depression in Black women
 
CONNECT
Have a burning question for us? Want to suggest a guest or a topic for our next episode? Send us a message via email to info@saddiebaddies.com or DM us on IG!
Stay connected with your host, Priscilla O. Agyeman, MPH via IG
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CREDITS
Directed by: Priscilla O. Agyeman,MPH
Mixing & Engineering by: Eduay Peña
Sounds by: Eduay Peña

‘Don’t Touch My Hair’:Dealing with Microaggressions

The thing about microaggressions, especially when you deal with them often as a Black person or a person of color, is that they feel like a slap in the face. They’re triggering, they make you question your self worth, they can reignite feelings of imposter syndrome and self doubt. But if you’ve dealt with or are currently dealing with handling a microaggression, you’re not alone.
Through this episode, you’ll learn:
What exactly microaggressions are and key examples of each type
How to respond to microaggressions with ease
Emotional and spiritual aftercare when dealing with a microaggression
You can stay in the loop with all the other #saddiebaddies by following us on all socials and subscribe to this podcast for weekly episodes:
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Check out our guide on our highlighted topics on social justice and racism with over 25 related topics
CONNECT
Have a burning question for us? Want to suggest a guest or a topic for our next episode? Send us a message via email to info@saddiebaddies.com or DM us on IG!
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CREDITS
Directed by: Priscilla O. Agyeman,MPH
Mixing & Engineering by: Eduay Peña
Sounds by: Eduay Peña